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The weight of a Father’s shadowDear Reader,Photo credit: PinterestYesterday, after Mass, I noticed a father walking slightly ahead of his child. The child was small – at that tender age where steps are enthusiastic but unsure, where confidence exists in bursts and then wobbles. The father was not holding his hand, and he was not hovering anxiously either. He simply walked close enough. Close enough to […]

Travel light this weekDear Reader,As a new week begins, I find myself thinking about how much we carry that has nothing to do with where we are going.We step into Mondays loaded – with conversations that didn’t end well, expectations we didn’t meet, guilt over what we should have done better, and anxieties about what might go wrong. By the time the week truly begins, we are […]

Photo credit: PinterestDear Reader,Literally, what do you do when you feel stuck? I need to hear your suggestions because that feeling is truly frustrating.I feel that way right now. And even though I can count many things I have achieved, or am still achieving, I still feel like something is missing. Like I am not doing enough. Like I should be somewhere else, not here […]

Photo credit: Intrepid website (this is not an advert for Intrepid)Dear Reader,This morning, I saw an image that stayed with me longer than I expected. A group of people walking together, mid-laughter, mid-step. No visible urgency. Just movement, lightness, presence. The words beside it read: Go where the joy takes you.And it made me pause.Not because it sounded revolutionary, but because it felt quietly radical in a […]

Photo credit: PinterestDear Reader,I’ve been quiet.Not in a dramatic way – just… quieter than usual.This time of year can do that. It gets crowded.Plans, emotions, unfinished lists, expectations – all asking for space at once.If you’ve been feeling the same, you’re not alone.December looks shiny from the outside, but sometimes it feels heavy from the inside.Not bad. Not tragic. Just… a lot.So this year, instead of “finishing strong,” I’m trying something else:Finishing […]

Image from PinterestDear Reader,We had just finished a lovely dinner at a friend’s house, and as a good guest, I offered to help with the dishes. Everything was going smoothly. Plates done, pots rinsed. I was wiping my hands, already halfway out of the kitchen in my mind, ready to rejoin the laughter in the lounge.Then it happened.Crack.The glass didn’t shatter dramatically. No loud crash. No […]

Image from PinterestDear Reader,Lately, I’ve been thinking about the quiet performances we all give – not on a stage, but in the small corners of everyday life. The polite laugh that isn’t quite ours. The careful words we choose so no one misreads us. The way we shrink ourselves so we don’t disturb the peace in rooms that were never peaceful to begin with.Many of us […]

Dear Reader,Recently, I’ve been questioning everything I do to uncover the real reasons behind my actions. I’ve realised that sometimes, simply because we are used to doing something, we stop interrogating it. We keep repeating the same patterns because it is expected of us – even when our soul left that assignment a long time ago. But I am no longer a child. So everything […]

Photo credit: PinterestDear Reader,The phrase soft life gets thrown around so casually these days that it has become both misunderstood and overused. For some, it means designer bags and passport stamps. For others, it’s code for laziness. But for many women – especially African and Black women – the soft life is the first time they’ve been permitted to imagine a life that is not […]

Beyond the stereotype: The quiet struggle of being a ManPhoto credit: PinterestDear Reader,Today, as the world acknowledges International Men’s Day, I invite you to step off the noisy streets of expectation and into a quieter, more reflective space. This day isn’t about setting up a competitive debate; it’s about acknowledging the full, complex humanity of men – the visible strengths and the invisible burdens.Our culture, in […]