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Photo credit: PinterestDear Reader,I’ve been quiet.Not in a dramatic way – just… quieter than usual.This time of year can do that. It gets crowded.Plans, emotions, unfinished lists, expectations – all asking for space at once.If you’ve been feeling the same, you’re not alone.December looks shiny from the outside, but sometimes it feels heavy from the inside.Not bad. Not tragic. Just… a lot.So this year, instead of “finishing strong,” I’m trying something else:Finishing […]

Image from PinterestDear Reader,We had just finished a lovely dinner at a friend’s house, and as a good guest, I offered to help with the dishes. Everything was going smoothly. Plates done, pots rinsed. I was wiping my hands, already halfway out of the kitchen in my mind, ready to rejoin the laughter in the lounge.Then it happened.Crack.The glass didn’t shatter dramatically. No loud crash. No […]

Image from PinterestDear Reader,Lately, I’ve been thinking about the quiet performances we all give – not on a stage, but in the small corners of everyday life. The polite laugh that isn’t quite ours. The careful words we choose so no one misreads us. The way we shrink ourselves so we don’t disturb the peace in rooms that were never peaceful to begin with.Many of us […]

Dear Reader,Recently, I’ve been questioning everything I do to uncover the real reasons behind my actions. I’ve realised that sometimes, simply because we are used to doing something, we stop interrogating it. We keep repeating the same patterns because it is expected of us – even when our soul left that assignment a long time ago. But I am no longer a child. So everything […]

Photo credit: PinterestDear Reader,The phrase soft life gets thrown around so casually these days that it has become both misunderstood and overused. For some, it means designer bags and passport stamps. For others, it’s code for laziness. But for many women – especially African and Black women – the soft life is the first time they’ve been permitted to imagine a life that is not […]

Beyond the stereotype: The quiet struggle of being a ManPhoto credit: PinterestDear Reader,Today, as the world acknowledges International Men’s Day, I invite you to step off the noisy streets of expectation and into a quieter, more reflective space. This day isn’t about setting up a competitive debate; it’s about acknowledging the full, complex humanity of men – the visible strengths and the invisible burdens.Our culture, in […]

Photo credit: PinterestDear Reader,Yesterday, as I sat making my baby’s hair, my mind drifted in that familiar way memories sneak up on us. Suddenly, I was a little girl again – walking beside my mum through Tudun-Wada market in Gusau, the sun hot, the air buzzing with traders, and me clutching my small snack with the kind of excitement only children understand.Every two weeks, the […]

This nugget is inspired by the Blink of MTR by Natalie Nixon on BlinkistDear Reader,I’ve been thinking lately about how easy it’s become to feel replaceable. Machines are learning to write, draw, calculate, even predict patterns in people. The workplace is changing fast and sometimes you catch yourself wondering if we, the humans, are being outpaced by our own creations.But here’s the thing I keep returning […]

Dear Reader,Lately, I’ve been thinking about pain – not just mine, but everyone’s. The kind that hides behind polite smiles, the kind that scrolls through life pretending all is fine, and the kind that lashes out at the world because it doesn’t know what else to do.Here’s the thing: pain is personal, but it’s also universal. Everyone’s pain is valid. Your heartbreak doesn’t cancel mine. My […]

Dear Reader,Have you noticed how money moves fast? Blink, and it’s gone. But interestingly, when it’s in the right hands or invested in the right idea, it grows just as fast – sometimes even faster.It’s almost as if money respects momentum. It flows toward movement, toward those who are already doing, not those just thinking or planning. Ever notice how when you finally start that business, […]